Are Selena Gomez and Benny Blanco in a 'Lavender Marriage'? Viral Video Sparks Speculation

A viral TikTok video has sent Selena Gomez and Benny Blanco's marriage straight back into the spotlight, with some users questioning whether the couple could be in what is known as a 'lavender marriage.'

The clip, which has been shared thousands of times across TikTok, X and Reddit, breaks down snippets from interviews, red carpet moments and social media posts, inviting viewers to 'look closer' at how the pair interact in public.

Almost instantly, the comments section split in two. Some fans dismissed the claims as ridiculous. Others began debating whether celebrity relationships are ever as straightforward as they appear.

How Selena and Benny's Relationship Began

Gomez and Blanco officially confirmed their romance in December 2023, after years of working together behind the scenes on music projects including Same Old Love and Single Soon.

Long before they were a couple, they were friends and collaborators — something fans often point to as evidence that their relationship developed naturally.

When they did go public, Gomez did not hold back. In interviews, she described feeling 'safe' and emotionally supported, saying she had 'never felt so comfortable yet so on my toes at the same time.'

Blanco, meanwhile, regularly praised her strength and openness, once calling her his 'soulmate' in a heartfelt post.

Their engagement in December 2024 and wedding in September 2025 were confirmed publicly, with photos later shared by close friends, including Taylor Swift.

Far from hiding their relationship, the pair have continued to appear together at industry events, award shows and private celebrations.

So Why Are People Suddenly Questioning It?

The current wave of speculation appears to stem almost entirely from social media analysis:

Viewers have picked apart everything from body language to facial expressions, sometimes freezing frames and replaying clips to 'prove' their theories.

Some argue that Gomez and Blanco are not overly affectionate in public. Others say their playful, sometimes awkward dynamic does not match what people expect from a married celebrity couple.

But many fans have pushed back hard.

Several pointed out that not every relationship looks like a red carpet photoshoot — and that being comfortable does not mean being distant.

As one user wrote, 'Not everyone performs romance for the camera.'

What Is a 'Lavender Marriage'?

The term 'lavender marriage' traditionally refers to a union between a man and a woman in which at least one partner is gay or bisexual, entered into mainly for social acceptance.

Historically, these arrangements were more common in eras when being openly LGBTQ+ could end careers.

In modern contexts, the term is sometimes used loosely online — often without much understanding of its history or meaning.

Psychology Today has noted that mixed-orientation marriages can involve genuine companionship and commitment, but experts stress that labels should not be applied casually.

No Proof — Just Internet Guesswork

So far, there is no evidence supporting the claims raised in the viral video.

Neither Gomez nor Blanco has hinted at anything unusual about their marriage. On the contrary, both have consistently spoken about trust, communication and emotional safety. Their friends continue to publicly support them. Their work schedules remain unchanged. Their public appearances show no obvious shift.

What does exist is a familiar pattern: a short clip goes viral, people start 'connecting dots,' and suddenly a private relationship becomes a public debate.

For Gomez, who has spent much of her life under intense scrutiny, this is hardly new. Until she or Blanco chooses to address the rumours directly, there is nothing to confirm — or deny — beyond what they have already shared themselves.

For now, the so-called 'lavender marriage' theory remains exactly what it appears to be: an online talking point, driven more by curiosity than facts.

And in an era where every moment is dissected, it may be worth remembering that not everything needs a hidden meaning.